Single Mum Musings: The Quiet Side

People sometimes ask why I still carry joy despite everything life has thrown my way. The truth is, choosing bitterness, anger or giving up has never felt like a better option to me. It doesn’t solve the problem, it only deepens the weight. I’ve had to learn to focus on what I have and not only what I’m still waiting for. To count my blessings even in hard seasons. Life isn't perfect. I just choose not to stay in a place that keeps me stuck. Maybe that’s my gentle reminder fo

I’ve been thinking about a moment from my first pregnancy. My due date had passed, and everyone told me to wait. But after experiencing a loss before, waiting didn’t feel right to me. So I chose a C-section. What stayed with me wasn’t just the decision, but the idea that there was a “right way” to do things; a stronger way, a better way. But in that moment, I wasn’t thinking about expectations. I was thinking about safety. Mine and my baby’s. And that choice gave me both. It

As single mums, many of us feel the pressure to be everything; both mum and dad, filling every gap, carrying every weight. In this honest reflection, I share my journey of overcompensating, the exhaustion that came with it, and the moment I realised something had to change. Here’s the truth: You don’t have to be both parents. You just have to be a loving, present mum; and that is enough. If you are navigating single motherhood and feeling the weight of “doing it all,” this

Some days, motherhood feels like a quiet test we are not sure we are passing. My boys wanted me to play Fortnite with them today, and honestly, I just didn’t have the energy or interest. And then I felt that quiet comparison creep in, thinking about other mums who always seem to “show up” in ways I don’t. But I’m learning that we don’t all show up the same way. And maybe that’s okay. This is the first of my “Single Mum Musings”; short reflections on the quiet, imperfect momen