All Posts

Some days, motherhood feels like a quiet test we are not sure we are passing. My boys wanted me to play Fortnite with them today, and honestly, I just didn’t have the energy or interest. And then I felt that quiet comparison creep in, thinking about other mums who always seem to “show up” in ways I don’t. But I’m learning that we don’t all show up the same way. And maybe that’s okay. This is the first of my “Single Mum Musings”; short reflections on the quiet, imperfect momen

Resilience keeps us standing, but perseverance carries us forward. Inspired by Late Eric Dane’s Netflix interview, I explored the difference between surviving setbacks and intentionally moving toward your next chapter. Where in your life are you simply resilient and where are you choosing to persevere?

The older I get, the more I realise that most relationship breakdowns don’t start with bad intentions; they start with miscommunication. Not explosive arguments, betrayal, or dramatic endings, but small gaps. A message interpreted differently, a silence held for too long, an assumption made instead of a question asked. Over time, those small gaps create distance, and distance, if left unattended, quietly reshapes relationships. Here are 10 things life has taught me about comm

There’s a saying we all know. When life gives you lemons, make lemonade . But what no one tells you is that sometimes the lemons come by the truckload. My marriage ended, but that was never what I planned when I said, ‘I do.’ I then had to navigate the challenges of single motherhood, the emotional residue of a broken marriage, the guilt, the questions, and the loneliness that followed. At the same time, during my PhD, as an international student with no real support from my

Over the last two weeks, we’ve talked about what curiosity is and how it shows up in our lives. But the truth is, curiosity doesn’t always stay alive. Sometimes it gets shut down quietly; by fear, routine, or even the comfort of being “right.” This week, we are uncovering those barriers and choosing growth instead. What Quietly Shuts Down Curiosity? Several things can quietly shut down curiosity. Fear is often the biggest barrier; fear of looking uninformed, of being judged,

Curiosity exists on a spectrum. It can be as harmless as googling why it snows… or as unproductive as asking questions simply to snoop or gossip. That’s why the kind of curiosity we cultivate matters. Curiosity begins with openness; to the world, and to ourselves. The emphasis here is on positive curiosity , a state of intentional, respectful, open-minded exploration that seeks understanding rather than judgment or gossip, connection rather than intrusion. Recently, I started

Curiosity has been discouraged, misunderstood, and underestimated; yet it’s the skill we need most to keep learning, connecting, and evolving.

Every January, I’d promise myself big things: eat better, exercise more, be more patient, but by February, those promises start to fade. I realised it wasn’t lack of willpower, it was that I was confusing resolutions with goals. It was really about how I approached change. Most of what we call New Year’s resolutions are broad intentions or wishes. They capture what we want to be or do, like “ I want to get fit ” or “ I want to be more organised .” They are tied to the calenda

Have you ever stopped to wonder why you do the things you do; the small, almost invisible habits that shape your day-to-day life? I remember hearing a story a while back about a mother who always cut the two ends off a sausage before frying. She had done it all her life, never knowing why; it was just something her mum did. When her daughter got married, she did the same. It was only when her husband asked why, that she finally asked her mother. Her mum didn’t know either, so

After five years of researching how new technologies are transforming the workforce, I recently completed my PhD. Throughout this journey, I explored how tools like artificial intelligence (AI), automation, robotics, smart devices, and big data are reshaping the way we work, and what that means for all of us. This week, I’m sharing the key insights that matter most for individuals. Next week, I’ll break down simple, practical ways you can prepare and stay ahead. The “New Tech

The average human loves to plan. We plan our careers, relationships, finances, studies, vacation, and even the kind of life we hope to live. And planning is good; it gives us direction and something to work toward. … But life doesn’t always follow the script. Sometimes, despite doing “everything right,” things still fall apart. The relationship ends. The job disappears. The opportunity passes. The dream takes longer than expected or changes completely. And suddenly, we are st

You might think you need a title, a corner office, or all the authority to create change. The truth? Leadership starts right where you are, with the actions you take and the courage to speak up. Whether at home, at work, or in your community, your influence is already there, waiting for you to claim it. I used to tell myself that I couldn’t make change because of the level I held. I wasn’t a CEO, I wasn’t in the executive suite, and I didn’t wield all the power in the world.

We all have words we wish we’d said, feelings we pushed aside, conversations we avoided. Maybe it’s a friend whose actions hurt more than expected, a colleague whose behaviour frustrates you, or a family member whose tension lingers silently. Silence can feel safe, but too often, it holds us back more than anyone else ever could. I’ve felt it myself. When friendships get strained and I don’t speak up, I carry that tension everywhere, subtly shaping my mood, my focus, and even

Have you ever realised you are living in what you once prayed for? And yet, somehow, it still doesn’t feel like enough. Over the years, I’ve learned how easy it is to stay focused on the next thing; the goal we haven’t reached, the milestone still ahead, and the version of ourselves we are trying to grow into. Ambition is a beautiful thing, but sometimes, in the chase for what’s next, we forget to acknowledge how far we have already come. This isn’t about settling, it’s about

During my five-year PhD journey, I faced challenges I never imagined: juggling full-time work, raising two boys as a single mum, navigating a marriage breakdown, and living in the diaspora without a support system. There were moments I broke down, sleepless nights when my mind wouldn’t rest, and even thoughts of quitting. A wake-up call came when I was rushed to the emergency room with high blood pressure; it forced me to reflect deeply on what was happening in my life and wh

Today, I want to share a lesson that stayed with me from Key Person of Influence by Daniel Priestley. He writes that vitality is more valuable than functionality, because you can’t get results without a vital person. Vital people bring something functional people simply don’t. That line stopped me. For years, many of us have been trained to be functional : meet standards, tick boxes, follow directions, avoid risks, and do what’s expected. We learn to deliver outcomes, not ne

A few months ago, I went to an event and unexpectedly bumped into a couple I hadn’t seen in years. We’d lost touch, so when they arrived,...

Have you ever sat in a room, a meeting, or even on a Zoom call, ready to contribute, when that quiet, insidious voice whispers: “You...

My mum always used to say, “ Fingers are not equal .” Back then, it sounded like one of those quirky sayings parents throw around. But...

Three months. That’s how long I hadn’t set foot in the gym. My excuses? Too cold. Too busy. Too tired . Sound familiar? A month ago, I...